The New Year
is a wonderful time. Fresh hope and new beginnings linger like the smell of
freshly baked bread. We are positively drunk with the promise of new
possibilities, buoyant against the tide of all that awaits us in the year
ahead. But, we are hardly going to
change overnight and that’s why that resolution to give up smoking/lose 1
stone/stop biting your finger nails (delete as appropriate) is best never made.
I loathe lazy January magazine filler stories with the headlines “New Year, new
you!” Ok, ok I may be a bit premature with this, jumping the gun that is Christmas
and heading straight for the finish line that is New Year’s Eve but I wanted to
stop you before you decided on a list
of (unrealistic) New Year’s resolutions resolving to …well, resolve nothing.
For two
years I have been following a New Year plan trademarked by my friend Posh Jen
(named as such because she is the poshest person I know). One year Jen was
bemoaning the fact she didn’t have anyone to go to Madrid with when her sister,
sick to the back teeth of hearing the broken record again, just said “why don’t you go on your own? Why are you waiting
for someone else? You always go on about all these things you want to do and
you NEVER DO THEM!”
And that was
that – Jen got to thinking about all the other things which she said she wanted
to do but never actually did: put a new kitchen in, take sign language classes,
organise a singles dinner. She took the bull by the horns and did one thing a
month for the whole of 2011. Result? 12 experiences that she was in total
control of, instead of a clutch of resolutions that were subject to the whims
of the world.
In 2012 I
snatched up the gauntlet: I read Pride & Prejudice, cooked mussels, made
hummus and baba ghanoush from scratch, went to the theatre 3 times. Instead of
that emotional and mental flogging you give yourself when you break a New
Year’s resolution I had a year’s worth of fat ticks when I had completed my
list.
So instead
of thinking ‘I’d like to eat there’ when you pass that Indian restaurant on the
bus you actually go and eat there.
Tick! It might be finally asking for that pay rise (but before you do bear this
in mind: 76% of HR Directors believe that an employee’s style of dress at work
influences their chance of promotion). So bearing that in mind it might be sorting out your work wardrobe once and
for all. It might not be anything as drastic as Cheryl’s back tattoo but small
things can have big consequences which are probably more fun than stopping
biting your finger nails will ever be.
